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Enmeshment
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OUR APPROACH TO TREATING ENMESHMENT
Ryan Slobodian and his Mana associates have been trained by Dr. Kenneth Adams, pioneer and expert in the field of enmeshment and family systems. Mana’s philosophy is to move the client towards authentic connection to the self, creating openness for a committed love relationship, and being in relationship with the parent that is free of obligation and guilt.
Am I Enmeshed?
Enmeshment refers to a relationship dynamic in which the emotional boundaries between a parent and child become overly entangled or enmeshed. In healthier parent-child relationships, there is a balance between closeness and independence, allowing children to develop their own identities and autonomy. In cases of enmeshment, this balance is disrupted, and the child may struggle to establish a separate autonomous, authentic self.
Key Characteristics of Enmeshment:
Lack of Boundaries: Enmeshed relationships often involve weak or porous emotional boundaries.
Overly Involved Parenting: The parent may be excessively involved in the child's life, intruding on personal matters and romantic relationships without allowing the child space to make independent choices.
Emotional Dependency: The enmeshed individual may become emotionally dependent on the parent, seeking validation and approval for every decision or aspect of their life.
Guilt and Obligation: Individuals in enmeshed relationships may feel a strong sense of guilt or obligation to meet their parent’s emotional needs, sometimes at the expense of their own well-being.
Effects of Enmeshment
Enmeshment can have a range of emotional, psychological, and relational consequences for individuals:
Identity Difficulties: individuals may struggle to develop a strong sense of self, as their identity becomes closely intertwined with their parents. Any step into their authentic wishes or desires may feel disloyal to the parent or family.
Difficulty Establishing Healthy Romantic Relationships: Enmeshed individuals may encounter challenges in forming healthy relationships, as they may prioritize their parent’s needs over their own and their partners.
Intimacy Avoidance: Enmeshed individuals often report difficulties in emotional intimacy, often feeling the need to escape closeness due to fears of engulfment and control. Partners of enmeshed individuals often report feeling emotionally distant and betrayed by their partner constantly choosing loyalty to the parent over the primary romantic relationship.
Ambivalence: The constant tug of war between the true self and enmeshment demands often creates a persistent ambivalence in individuals and an aversion to decisive commitment in various aspects of life.
Recognizing and addressing enmeshment is a crucial step toward establishing healthier emotional boundaries. Working with a skilled therapist can provide valuable insights and support in understanding and addressing enmeshment patterns that plague life and relational satisfaction.